SOAP Study - October 6, 2020

    10.06.20 | by Rocky Shack


    1 Corinthians 7:1-7

    Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to abstain from sexual relations.[a] But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

    The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

    Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another.


    • What verse stood out to you while you were reading?
    • What did you discover about God, yourself, and others?
    • How should this information impact your life?
    • What needs to be different about the way you are currently living?
    • Take some time to talk to God about the things you just learned and how you want your life to look different. Give God thanks for revealing these things to you, ask Him for wisdom and courage to move forward so that you can apply these things to your life.

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    Here, Paul is giving instructions on marriage. Why? Because Paul knows that Satan continues to try to tempt us, even in our marriages. Just because we get married, Satan doesn’t say, “Well, I missed my shot to destroy them.” Instead, Satan seeks to destroy what God has brought together in God. There are Corinthian Christians who are asking Paul about abstinence from sex. I get it. We have seen sex perverted in our culture to the point that even when it is talked about by Paul, it still sounds like a taboo conversation. However, listen to how Paul talks about it. Paul talks about sexual relations as a good gift from God. God created sex, and I believe that God knows better than anyone else how it should be expressed. But, pursuing it outside of the covenant bond of marriage is sin, and the result will not bring the fulfillment that God intended. Paul is making the point that sexual expression within marriage is a moral and good thing. So, Paul speaks directly to husbands and wives encouraging them to fill their marital responsibilities to one another. Sex should not be a duty but an opportunity to focus on the needs of their spouses. The only time that husbands and wives can deprive each other of that need is for fasting. If a husband and wife need God to intervene in a situation, they may fast from a good thing in marriage for the purpose of prayer instead. However, if husbands and wives deprive each other from sexual relations out of spite or punishment, Paul knows our lack of self-control, and so does the Enemy. Paul is warning husbands and wives that Satan will use any opportunity to break apart what God has brought together in God’s name.


    I think this is a case where we have to see that the Word is beneficial for our teaching and understanding of God’s intentions and how we should treat each other. In this case, Paul is showing spouses how they should try each other and how they should be vigilant with their marriage because Satan is always looking for a foothold to tear away what God has brought together. I think we need to start seeing sex not for what the world has made it out to be but for what God has intended for it to be. When we do that, we will see it as a good gift from God. Husbands and wives will stop seeing it as a obligation but as a gift from God.


    LORD, protect our marriages from the Evil One! Do not let us fall for its snares! Do not allow us to look outside of our marriages for solutions except for the people of peace who can mend what is broken. We recognize our inability to control ourselves. We call upon you to lead our marriages in the good, the bad and the ugly! Help us to see the good gifts of your grace and mercy! Don’t let us take it for granted!